A Letter to a Son
My darling Siddartha, May 09, 2011 was a day my life had changed irreversibly for the better. You were born.
I had assiduously prepared for all the joys of fatherhood. Yet you easily overwhelm me everyday. Your amazing energy – that you inherited from your mother, your candy-sweet looks that I try hard not to be too proud of, your unebbing charm – which sometimes manifests in comical negation of every suggestion I make, earning you the sobriquet ‘NO-bita’, you seem to have rightfully claimed every good quality that was available from the gene pool.
You are a complete package in yourself and you fulfil us. So, we wouldn’t have thought of another kid. But we did, because for all the joy you give us, what your mother and I do for you never seems enough to square things with you. It just seems part of our responsibility for having brought you into this world.
So we thought of giving you the gift that only we can. A gift of a sibling. And look how lucky we all are Siddartha. Your sibling turned out to be an adorable girl. A sister, whom we call Yamini.
Siddartha, every sibling is a gift but a sister is a very special one because she improves you at every stage in your life. I can say this because I have the two loving sisters.
As Yamini grows up with you, you will learn that as a girl-child, teenager, and as a woman, her thoughts, desires, and rights matter as much as yours. Your sister will make you more sensitive to the world.
Don’t be fooled though that you will fully understand women. No man has ever but you will do better than others, thanks to your sister.
When love happens to you Siddartha, you’ll be glad that you have a sister, because she will be the first one to understand it.
And oh! what can I say about the joys of being an uncle to sister’s kids. Your first cousins have made my life mirthful long before you both were born. You too will enjoy that part of life when you turn that corner.
I see you already have a special attachment with your mother. As your parents, we look forward to giving you both all we can and spend many many years with you, but we won’t hang around forever son. It is then that you will see your little sister fill the void left by your mother because only she can.
Siddartha, we are giving you a sister so you may never feel alone in your life and in the autumn of it, relive all your life’s memories with the only person who has been with you through. So take good care of your little sister Siddartha. Remember, as Spiderman would say, with a great gift comes great responsibility.
In the games that you both play in your childhood and at every opportunity, help her win when she can. Help her grow into a confident woman. It is good for you, the family, and for the society. And remember too that you are not just her brother, you are her protector, for life.
Let’s welcome Yamini into our lives.
With unbridled love, Your father, Kiran K.